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The Perfect Pre-Wedding Shoot

"Mawwage. Mawwage is what bwings us togevah today. Mawwage, that bwessed awwangement, that dweam wifin a dweam" - The princess bride by William Goldman

Hi everyone, sincere apologies for the long absence and apologies in advance for the fact that I won't be posting as often as I should just yet.

I lost my dad a few weeks ago and between crying and beating myself up over being somewhat distant from him in the weeks before he died, I've not been able to do much else.

It's hard enough to lose someone but it's even worse to deal with the feeling of guilt knowing that you could have been there for them a lot more than you were.

I'm especially thankful to my cousin; Remi and my friends; Eddy, Grace, Uyai and Ehimen that have not grown weary of encouraging me to not blame myself and frankly, allowing me burst into tears randomly. Thank you.

This post has been in my drafts for a while now so I thought to share it with you.

Now, I don't know if there is a reward for the couple with the most ridiculous pre-wedding pictures but Nigerians are well placed to win it. I've seen quite a number of jaw-dropping ones (and definitely not jaw-dropping in a nice way). I'm sure you have too.

Until very recently, I didn't see the need for pre-wedding pictures. Quite frankly, I think they're solely to "pepper them". But, my friends say the pictures are necessary for wedding souvenirs and the likes. I don't quite agree but I think I'm coming around to conclusion that I just might do one.

Definitely not a tacky one and because I love you all so much, here are a few ways to make sure you nail your pre-wedding shoot.

Get a Good Photographer; Believe it or not, your choice of a photographer can make or mar your pre-wedding shoot. You should strive to pick a photographer who knows his/her onions. Not a point-and-shoot guy. He/she doesn't necessarily have to be a top-shot but should be able to work angles in a manner that will flatter you. Most importantly, you want someone that will understand what you want and interpret it appropriately.

A lot of people get carried away with popular brands who do not particularly have the skills to capture moments.

Pick a Theme and Keep it Simple; Pick a theme that you're most comfortable in; a dinner theme, outdoor theme, sporty theme. Whatever makes you at ease around each other. This is important because you want your pictures to give off a very relaxed and natural feel.

I cannot overemphasize the need to keep your shoot simple. Trust me, you do not want to levitate, you do not want to tie your partner up in the trunk of a car. You don't want any of that stuff. Just keep it simple and nice.

Pick Your Outfits Properly; Actually get a stylist (preferably, Me!). You want to wear complementing outfits not uniforms. I mean, lovers not twins! Rather than wear the same colors, you can pick colors in the same palette. That way, both looks are coordinated but not necessarily the same. In the case where there is a favorite color, keep it interesting by accessorizing with it. A lot of one color, especially a strong one can be overwhelming. So, while you wear a red shoe, the bae can don a red tie.

Lose the Cheesy Props; If you ever planned to use any of those extremely mawkish props, you need to hold it right there. I'm sorry.

Throw away the "I said yes" card. Right now. We know you said yes, that's why we're here. Init?

Oya, put those "I'm hers and she's mine" shirts in the bin. We know that you people belong to each other. Were you going to belong to me before?

"Mr. Right, Mrs. Always Right"? Really? You're going to have kids. Is that really the legacy you wan't to leave for them. Aha! I didn't think so.

Illustrations by Justin Irabor

Until Next Time,
It's Tee


  1. Felt a little silly leaving a comment on this post after reading you intro. I can't imagine what your going through right now, my condolences hun. Take your time. May the Lord give you grace to pull through and stand strong.

    Princess Audu

  2. Sorry for the untimely demise of your pops darling... The article is very articulate as a matter of face, I decided I wont do any shoot at all a simple logo can do.. it always feels like people are running for election with all the color splash et all...

  3. I couldn't agree more with everything you've said here. I see some pictures and all I can think about is how these people will feel when they see them a couple of years later. Uniforms, cheeeeeeessy lines, over the top themes, all very annoying.

  4. Accept my condolences dear!!! God will see you through this face.

    This is an apt post. Those chessy shirts need to go and all the extras nigerians have been doing of late.I'm definitely going to do a pre-wedding shoot more because i like shooting lol

    1. Amen. Thank you so much Toyin.

      It's like someone asked for who can have the most ridiculous pre-wedding shoot and they are all contending.

  5. Sorry dear about your dad's demise. Find solace in Christ.
    Nice article,, all this prewedding photos, some are really too flashy and since its trendy I just know somehow it will take a new shape sometime to come.tnx for d light

  6. I'm so sorry for your loss dear. May God continue to give you peace.

  7. This is so enlightening.

    I'm so sorry for your loss Tee.

  8. Really nice Tee.

    kPele. Daddy is in a better place now.

  9. Thank God i have you cos i am very sure i can decide to wear an annoying shade of pink with Mine written on it and maybe tell the photographer to put me on a tree and snap, making sure the boo looks like he is about to pluck what is his.

  10. So sorry for your loss. The good Lord will strengthen you and your family and give you the fortitude to bear your loss. God bless xx

  11. Wow Anthonia,I am so sorry for your loss. God will see you through this time to His Glory.Amen.
    This post is actually the truth!! Literaony laughed at the props ony, so true though!


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